If you’re a lover of mathematics, it would be quite the romantic idea that the Paretto Principle, the idea that only 20% of a population attain 80% of the results, would also be present in the dating world, but this statistical phenomena is only present in environments with a neutral measuring unit that every member is equally vying for.
The Paretto Principle works for things like income, coding, and even crime, because the entire population within those categories are being measured for the same outcome.
For instance, money is neutral within itself and we all desire it somewhat equally. This provides an even playing field for the Paretto Principle to distribute itself.
However, this does not work in dating because attraction and attractiveness for the opposite sex, for both genders, is not neutral, so the desire and distribution can not be spread out so uniformly.
Most of the speculation on this theory falls flat because it’s viewed from the perspective of perceived “lower tier” men, without much consideration of what’s happening outside with the other members of the population.
Even if 80% of women are indeed chasing the top 20% of men, this does not mean that the top percent of men are juggling all 80% of those women.
First off, having that many women is bound to infringe on the law of diminishing returns. The most likely scenario is that a top-tier man has a decent rotation of women which most likely increases in quality but reduces in quantity over time.
Even if that’s not the case, if you are a top-percent guy, why would you associate with the bottom tier of women when you have access the cream of the crop?
To further our research, we would have to investigate the habits of these top-percent men to confirm. But fine, I’m a little bit more conservative myself, so I’ll be happy to concede that many other men can be complete thirst dogs. Onto the next point.
Believing in the 80/20 dating rule completely ignores beta-buxxing and monkey branching as well, as there are certainly men out there who are able to get sex via their ability to provide.
Now, the quality of that sex is a different story.
We could have a totally separate argument that out of all the men having sex, only 20% are having 80% of the best sex, but to just outright say that only 20% are having sex at all is a complete misuse of the principle.
At first you’re getting 100% with the girl, but then you move in or marry her, and after a while it’s only 20% of what it used to be, in quality and quantity. Meanwhile, on Girls’ Night, that’s where she meets Chad to make up for that 80% you’ve been missing.
But let’s continue with the premise that 80% of women are chasing that 20% of men. For the women who have a harder time gaining access to this select field, how long can she delay gratification?
“At best, they are looking to have their egos stroked by saying no to all the men who seem to be interested in them [especially through online dating] and then will have an anonymous sexual encounter with some random loser, when they have been too long without love, sex or intimacy. “– Nicoguy_Chad on goingyourownway forums.
This is why I still think game matters, because you could easily be that “random loser” who can score the woman with the social media inflated SMV when she realizes her dreams aren’t coming true.
However, I think there’s a little bit more variety and optimism to be had in life. Not every girl is online dating. Do you really not have any friends who are average guys and are able to score some dates?
Having a limited social life and only reaching out to other individuals with a similar predicament on the internet can really distort your view of reality.
Some girls also learn quite quickly that bad boys break hearts, and start looking for something safer. Others will have realistic expectations (or low self-esteem) that will clue them in of their pecking order and outside of contention for the 20%.
You can find a decent girl. Is it harder to find a good one nowadays? Probably. Is it worth the effort to get her and then keep her? Maybe not. But I think it’s 100% possible, and it’s your choice to make.
For us MGTOW men, we always weigh the options. And when things don’t add up, we go our own way.
See you on the Far Side. – Moon Base
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