The deeper I go into Monk Mode, the more I lose the fear I mentioned having in Finding The Wall.
I was afraid when I first started Monk Mode.
I was afraid that I would find toiling away in solitude more preferable to socializing in mainstream society, and that I would find some knowledge, whether about myself or about the world, that would never allow me to return to normal everyday relationships with friends, family, and lovers.
Notice how my specific fear was knowledge, because once you know, it’s very difficult to continue living life under the same veil of ignorance; you have a responsibility to change. I have already experienced many red pills: government and politics, news media, female nature, heck even the keto diet.
I didn’t want to lose anymore by taking yet another red pill by observing the behavior of monks and considering prolonged abstinence or celibacy.
“Because you could not find joy, you settled for pleasure. Pleasure is not joy. It’s beautiful, but limited.” – Sadhguru
In this video, Sadhguru explains Brahmacharya, the “Bachelor Student” stage for spiritual practitioners, which is largely associated with its practice of celibacy. It’s a very profound explanation, but what I will take away for this message is the delineation between pleasure and joy. Essentially, pleasure seeking is always the procurement of external stimulus, whereas joy is something achieved from within.
He sums up the celibacy practice as a tool for reaching this inner peace, and it is not needed as a life long vow. The goal is only to become joyful by your own nature, as those who do not walk the path may find themselves attempting to extract joy from others, and relying on them for pleasure.
And it is precisely this reliance on the external that actually bonds you, Sadhguru explains. Naturally, we humans want to escape bondage, and have no problem breaking our unpleasant limitations, but unfortunately we celebrate our pleasant ones, making them much harder to break. Consider how marriage is performed and celebrated, with each partner binding the other with a ring, with death being the only thing to sever the bond.
Another instance is the motto of the Blue Pill man in regards to women: “can’t live with them, can’t live without them.” Clearly, if you respect the path of the monks, you would know this to be untrue. If you no longer want to suffer, there is a joyful path to freeing yourself from your limitations.
I must reiterate that the Bachelor student phase is actually the first of four of the age-based stages called Ashramas. The next three are householder, forest dweller/retiree and renunciation, however, any of the first three can be started at any time interchangeably, or skipped altogether to get to Sannyasa (renunciation).
I need to say this to demonstrate once again that you can graduate from Brahmacharya and become a householder (family man) if that’s what you choose to do. If we substitute the word limitation we used earlier for attachment, then we would be more familiar in Buddhist territory, in which one of the Four Noble Truths explains that not only our cravings are a source of suffering, but also our aversions.
“The other problem pointed out by Buddha here, which is very pertinent, is that denying desire (or depriving oneself) is like denying life itself. A person, he said, has to rise above attachments and for that, he need not deprive himself. The problem arises when he does not know where to put an end to his desires. And when he yields into his desires, he becomes a slave to them.” – Zenlightenment
Rejecting sexuality does not have to be the goal, only non-attachment and discipline towards it. Spiritual science is incredibly thorough, and there are balanced and holy ways of conducting your carnal expressions.
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So, how does the goofy and glorious Jeff Goldblum fit into all this?
Well, if you haven’t noticed, this article is targeted towards the MGTOW or Red Pill men who still want a family one day. However, those of us who are still very much intent on childless bachelorhood can still use this advice to ward off family members prodding us back onto the plantation.
At 62 years old, Jeff Goldblum conceived his first child with his wife, whom is thirty years his junior, and was blessed with another child two years later. Goldblum was married two times prior to his current wife, but what’s special about it is that there was a whopping 24 years of single life in between his second divorce and his current marriage.
We already know that men hit their peak in the sexual marketplace around age 35-40, and it’s advised to keep spinning plates with women and don’t consider settling down until you get there. My method is to push the settling down age even further, because of Jeff Goldblum and my next idea about The Virtue of Youth.
Even if you disagree with the sexual marketplace, there is an indisputable biological clock for women that ticks down way faster than it does for men, in terms of sexual reproduction. So, if men can produce healthy children well into their 50’s and 60’s, then there truly shouldn’t be any rush to settle down.
I call it “The Virtue of Youth” because there is an obvious physical difference between the young and the elderly, and I have been contemplating what our youthful strength is meant for. The contemporary strategy is to exhaust your youth on working and saving so that you will have an income in your later years during retirement. If that is a man’s objective, then he is severely hamstringing himself by incorporating the costs of marriage and children before his retirement age. He simply won’t be able to contribute as much to his early investments and receive the most compound interest over the years.
Imagine having 25+ years of work into your career, with no wife and child. You could easily rise up the ranks and have time to pursue your other passions and interests as well. Without a doubt you would be rich and likely famous if you wanted to.
If you then decide to become a householder, you could afford to buy a house in cash, and support a stay-at-home wife and the subsequent children, and continue to supplement your income with a side-business that you have been nurturing over the years. This way, you’ll be able to actually enjoy your marriage and family a lot more than the average husband who is away for most of the day at work trying to keep the lights on.
When I first mentioned this method to my family, their first response was unanimously in horror due to the fact that the women at that age wouldn’t be able to produce children. And then they were unanimously in silence when I respond that I just simply need to find a younger woman. The Blue Pill is such a constrained view of the world.
I personally think older people enjoy hanging out with youthful people to an extent. After your youth runs out following this method, it’s only fair and sensible that you also inject more youth into your life by having a younger wife and being surrounded by your children.
The only downsides to this method is that you are pushing the start of your family quite late, and there may be a chance you kick the bucket before you see your grand kids, especially if your sons come out as smart as you are. But hey, you can’t have it all. If you do pass early though, there’s a ton in the will to make sure your family is taken care of.
I personally think following this method will encourage you to stay healthy over the years, as you need to be in optimal health to produce children at later ages and you also want to make sure you stick around to see them grow. The average man is probably beaten down from balancing his work and family over the years and probably resigns in his later years in regards to his health.
But you truly get the best of both worlds with this method. Men who marry early have an uphill battle. If you follow the Jeff Goldblum method, you’re coasting through it all.
Will I adopt this method myself? I don’t think so.
Too many of our greatest thinkers, inventors, and artists were all celibate, and I can’t help but conclude this is the key to their success. The one married man I do admire the most is Marcus Aurelius, but he made the mistake of promoting his son Commodus to emperor, and his son’s subsequent assassination kicked off the Year of the Five Emperors, a period of civil war within Rome. Aurelius, ironically enough, was the last of the “Five Good Emperors” of Rome, a successful dynasty of emperors whom were all adopted.
I believe a man must choose to marry either a woman or the world. If I settled down with a family, then only a small group of people would gain my full attention and resources. But if I marry the world, everyone in it becomes my child. The world and all it’s secrets garners my full potential, in the same way Isaac Newton and Nikola Tesla’s scientific and technological advancements moved the world forward.
The advantage of having a family is that your wealth gets passed on to the people you cared about and invested in to continue your legacy. It would be a shame if all the wealth us MGTOW men are able to accumulate just gets absorbed by the bank after we die.
My plan is to make MGTOW my family. I’m young and broke right now, so it’s just a pipe dream, but if I turn out to have exceptional talent and success, I look forward to starting a fraternity or non-profit organization of sorts of MGTOW men, and when I pass, the money will go to the organization, and not squandered away by any of my blue pill family members.
It’s just too Blue Pill for me to consider genes being the only form of legacy. With every new generation, your contribution to the genetic code gets smaller and smaller over time anyway. And what about your consciousness? Your ideas? Your philosophy? Jesus had no children and became the biggest religion on the planet.
If you care at all about spirituality, you have to believe you are more than just your body. I refuse to rely on my genes and this material world. What if reality was actually an illusion? Then that would mean that we all actually exist as ideas, impressions, and concepts. Therefore, I’d much rather pass down my ideas.
And I don’t even care about leaving a legacy much honestly. Aurelius reminds us in his book Meditations that the people who remember you will also die one day, so there’s no point. Yes, I think even Jesus and Buddha will be forgotten in the grand scheme of human civilization.
Ah! But that’s too much nihilism for you! You’re not ready for that. I’ll stop here.
Whatever you choose to do, I hope it’s done virtuously and consciously, and in your own way.
See you on the Far Side… – Monk Moon Base.
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