This isn’t my first time around the block. Before now, the longest streak I’ve ever had was 163 days.
But even though I’m less than a 1/5th of my highest streak, hitting this milestone seems different this time.
It’s as if the efforts of my previous streaks have compounded into a habitual memory and has allowed me to easily pick up where I left off, and maybe reach even higher levels of insight than before.
“A Saiyan gets stronger after every battle.” – Prince Vegeta
I suppose the greatest difference now is starting this streak after finally losing my virginity. Sex was still the goal for me during the previous streaks, with sexual transmutation a tool for reaching some personal confidence standards to finally pursue sex seriously.
No Fap and Sex Transmutation was just a means to an end.
But now that I’ve had sex, I’ve also been able to clearly see what kind of person I am before, during, and after engaging my sexual urges, whether it’s with a partner or with porn.
I think there is very little to be learned about yourself in the pursuit of sex. After all it is just a sensual pleasure.
The desire for sex is just an intelligent expression of our genes, with its ultimate goal to reproduce, and it is only our ego that rationalizes these pursuits for us in a communicable way that has us speak to ourselves about it in our minds to make it appear as if it’s something we truly want. As if it was the rational direction we should take.
After 30 days of No-Fap, I do not see the rationality of pursuing and completing sex in the traditional ways we currently accomplish it. I’ve even had to question eating food, another sensual pleasure that can explode into addiction.
Food just passes through you, in the same way sex passes through you. It’s just a biological drive. However, the difference is that food is more of a necessity than sex. Without food you may die. But you can survive just fine without ever orgasming. In fact, some philosophies believe that a man should preserve his semen as it is his life force.
Claiming that sex is a “need” as we do in conventional society is just rationalization.
My argument is not to abandon sex forever, but to simply curb it, to fast from it, only to recognize it has no true dominion over you.
Many of us take the Red Pill but we stop after knowing the horrific truths about the media, politicians, and every day women are manipulating us. So we go our own way. But what is the purpose of outdoing those that want to control us if we cannot control ourselves?
These men vow to never spend a dime on marriage, child support, and a date with a domestic woman, and turn around only to risk their lives in red light districts spending thousands of dollars at home and abroad.
How is it rational to determine that there is no future to be made with the modern woman, yet you’ll still engage with her, even if it’s for a one night lay?
“No matter if a woman is a sinner or a saint, when you lay with her you become her equal. So no matter what you feel about them, it’s also a reflection of yourself” – Anonymous
Think of the men who spend hours in the street and in clubs pursuing women, sometimes with less than a 5% success rate, rationalizing that “rejection builds character.”
No. You want to get laid, because your genes want to reproduce. All the time and resources your body uses to build semen just for it to end up in a latex bag. Or even worse, a tissue in your hand. Pathetic.
And you’ll go back and do it all over again, never questioning why the ride doesn’t stop.
Imagine the businesses and skills these men could acquire if only they knew they were slaves. You ended your slavery with the media, with corporate society, and with women, but you have not recognized the blind spot you hold for yourself.
What I want to achieve through No-Fap and MGTOW is Self-mastery.
Are you willing to take on the challenge to no longer being a slave to your own biology?
See you on the far side. – Monk Moon Base
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If you’re a lover of mathematics, it would be quite the romantic idea that the Paretto Principle, the idea that only 20% of a population attain 80% of the results, would also be present in the dating world, but this statistical phenomena is only present in environments with a neutral measuring unit that every member is equally vying for.
The Paretto Principle works for things like income, coding, and even crime, because the entire population within those categories are being measured for the same outcome.
For instance, money is neutral within itself and we all desire it somewhat equally. This provides an even playing field for the Paretto Principle to distribute itself.
However, this does not work in dating because attraction and attractiveness for the opposite sex, for both genders, is not neutral, so the desire and distribution can not be spread out so uniformly.
Most of the speculation on this theory falls flat because it’s viewed from the perspective of perceived “lower tier” men, without much consideration of what’s happening outside with the other members of the population.
Even if 80% of women are indeed chasing the top 20% of men, this does not mean that the top percent of men are juggling all 80% of those women.
First off, having that many women is bound to infringe on the law of diminishing returns. The most likely scenario is that a top-tier man has a decent rotation of women which most likely increases in quality but reduces in quantity over time.
Even if that’s not the case, if you are a top-percent guy, why would you associate with the bottom tier of women when you have access the cream of the crop?
To further our research, we would have to investigate the habits of these top-percent men to confirm. But fine, I’m a little bit more conservative myself, so I’ll be happy to concede that many other men can be complete thirst dogs. Onto the next point.
Believing in the 80/20 dating rule completely ignores beta-buxxing and monkey branching as well, as there are certainly men out there who are able to get sex via their ability to provide.
Now, the quality of that sex is a different story.
We could have a totally separate argument that out of all the men having sex, only 20% are having 80% of the best sex, but to just outright say that only 20% are having sex at all is a complete misuse of the principle.
At first you’re getting 100% with the girl, but then you move in or marry her, and after a while it’s only 20% of what it used to be, in quality and quantity. Meanwhile, on Girls’ Night, that’s where she meets Chad to make up for that 80% you’ve been missing.
But let’s continue with the premise that 80% of women are chasing that 20% of men. For the women who have a harder time gaining access to this select field, how long can she delay gratification?
“At best, they are looking to have their egos stroked by saying no to all the men who seem to be interested in them [especially through online dating] and then will have an anonymous sexual encounter with some random loser, when they have been too long without love, sex or intimacy. “– Nicoguy_Chad on goingyourownway forums.
This is why I still think game matters, because you could easily be that “random loser” who can score the woman with the social media inflated SMV when she realizes her dreams aren’t coming true.
However, I think there’s a little bit more variety and optimism to be had in life. Not every girl is online dating. Do you really not have any friends who are average guys and are able to score some dates?
Having a limited social life and only reaching out to other individuals with a similar predicament on the internet can really distort your view of reality.
Some girls also learn quite quickly that bad boys break hearts, and start looking for something safer. Others will have realistic expectations (or low self-esteem) that will clue them in of their pecking order and outside of contention for the 20%.
You can find a decent girl. Is it harder to find a good one nowadays? Probably. Is it worth the effort to get her and then keep her? Maybe not. But I think it’s 100% possible, and it’s your choice to make.
For us MGTOW men, we always weigh the options. And when things don’t add up, we go our own way.
See you on the Far Side. – Moon Base
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